She said she did that for a client once and it made the client’s hair so weak that when she put her hair up in a bun at the beach, her bun fell off. She never agreed because my hair is naturally so dark and she said it would just take too much processing to lighten it to where we would want to get it. There’s no one way to go gray! I personally went cold turkey even though I begged my hairdresser every time to give me some highlights or lowlights or a gloss…SOMETHING to take the edge off. RELATED: Need more going gray inspo? Check out our Going Gray Lookbook, with real women’s going gray journeys.Ĭarol Love tried gray extensions with twists. I often equate this last hair appointment with “breakup sex.” I needed that one last rendezvous to be sure-and it ended up being just what I needed to move forward. I didn’t even last a week-haha! But going to the salon, sitting in that chair, looking at myself going through the motions one last time really gave me the closure I needed to move on. The moment I announced I was going gray, I made a hair appointment to get my hair dyed. And when it starts screaming words like, SCREW THIS!, that drive, that commitment, those feelings of being fed up will propel your experience forward and give you more strength and more tenacity to ride the ups and downs to come.įor me, it was deciding to go gray and then immediately chickening out. Then, at some point, something will happen and you will feel your inner voice getting louder and louder. This will help you build confidence I promise. Find inspiration in other women, find other women’s going gray stories, read going gray books, search Pinterest or join a going gray group like The Gray Book. Give yourself some more time to build the confidence and desire to jump in. If your inner dialogue still sounds like, “I want to go gray, but I’m not sure.” Or “I will go gray…just not yet.” Or, “It looks great on you but I could never.” Don’t force it, friend. My inner dialogue convinced me to dye my hair again just ONE MORE TIME (which you can read all about in my Going Gray: Before and After Pictures post). I’m not going dyeing my hair anymore.” (Or something a little louder with a couple trash-mouth swears thrown in.) And that’s when you will know it’s time. When you are ready, your inner voice will sound something like, “That’s it. This could be someone glancing at your roots (AGAIN), or an unsupportive hairdresser telling you not to go gray, a boiling frustration with having to schedule a hair appointment every three weeks or even seeing another beautiful woman rockin’ her grays. Sometimes this knowing will arrive via a slow build over time or sometimes it strikes via a “straw that breaks the camel’s back” moment. How do you know you are ready? YOU WILL KNOW. It seems a bit counterintuitive for me to be encouraging you not to go gray but seriously, don’t start until you are ready. RELATED: The best all-natural purple shampoos for gray hair (or silver or white or blonde hair).ĥ years after going gray. Why purple shampoo? It’s basic color theory: Yellow is opposite from purple on the color wheel, indicating these two tones cancel each other out. Purple shampoo is the best toner to use when it comes to gray hair because it neutralizes brassiness caused by heat styling, medications, product buildup, sun, salt, chlorine and environmental pollutants. ![]() Thankfully, a purple shampoo will help remedy that, which is why it’s so important to a going gray guide. It was all getting a bit muddy and I found myself craving something to add brightness, definition, brilliance and clarity to my grays. ![]() I couldn’t tell if my whites were actually white or if they were browns that hadn’t turned white yet. Then, three years in, my hair started taking on a brassy tinge. The first couple of years I grew out my hair gray, I was convinced my experience transcended purple shampoo. First of all, you may not even need a toning shampoo at all.
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